You Already Know Better… So Why Aren’t You Doing It? Fix Your Relationships | Day 1

I asked sometime ago if we could get more real and personal in these discussions. I didn’t see many yeses, but the Spirit of the Lord continues to lead, and I continue to follow.

Because the goal is not to expose anyone, but for us to be honest enough to examine ourselves, to confront what needs to change, and to grow into who God is calling us to be. Amen?!!

Family, let’s bring this into real life this morning, because this is where it matters most. Not just in theory, but in marriages, friendships, church spaces, and even at work.

The topic for today: You Already Know Better… So Why Aren’t You Doing It? Fix Your Relationships.

The thing is, we have to be honest with ourselves and admit that some of the strain we are experiencing in our relationships is not because we don’t pray, but because we are bypassing what God has already made clear to us.

Psalm 119:105 (KJV) says, “Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path.”

Family, that light is not vague. It shows us how to respond, how to speak, how to treat people, and even when to step back.

So when tension keeps showing up in the same relationship spaces, the arguments continue for the simplest of issues, vexation leading to blocking and deleting or breaking off a business partnership or other connection, there has to come a point when we ask, are we following the light or ignoring it?

James 1:22 (KJV) says, “But be ye doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving your own selves.” Oh, we didn’t know that applies to the natural as it does to the spiritual?

Yes. We can actually sit under teaching, read Scripture, even pray about situations, and still act in ways that contradict what we know is right.

And when that happens, it doesn’t just affect our spiritual walk, it shows up in how we speak, how we react, and how we handle people. That’s why the same tension keeps resurfacing, because what we know has not yet become what we do.

Let’s talk about marriage. We know the Word says in Ephesians 4:29 (KJV), “Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying.” Yet in heated moments, we still say things that tear down instead of build up. Not because we didn’t know, but because we didn’t apply what we knew in the moment it mattered most.

In friendships, Proverbs 17:9 (KJV) says, “He that covereth a transgression seeketh love; but he that repeateth a matter separateth very friends.” Yet we find ourselves revisiting offenses, sharing things we should have buried, or holding on to what we said we forgave. Then we wonder why the relationship feels strained.

In church relationships, where love should be most evident. The Word tells us in John 13:35 (KJV), “By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another.” But sometimes pride, comparison, or offense creeps in, and instead of addressing it in humility, we withdraw, gossip, or build silent walls.

Can anybody identify?

And even in the workplace, Colossians 3:23 (KJV) tells us, “And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord.” Yet we allow attitudes, frustration, or how others treat us to dictate our standard, when our real accountability is to God.

Family, this is where the disconnect shows up. Not in what we don’t know, but in what we choose not to do.

No question about it: We know when to pause before responding, but we react anyway because we are hot-headed and allow that emotion to rule us! We know when to let something go, but we hold onto it because we want to make the other person feel bad for how they treated us. We know when to be honest, but we avoid the conversation or we tell half-truths and leave out the rest.

And each time we override that inner conviction, we weaken the very relationships we are praying for.

Galatians 5:16 (KJV) says, “Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.”

That walk is daily. It is choosing patience when we feel irritated. It is choosing restraint when we feel justified. It is choosing truth when it is uncomfortable.

What we need to understand is that relationships are not sustained by feelings. They are sustained by decisions. Decisions to forgive when it is hard. Decisions to speak life instead of causing damage. Decisions to align our behaviour with what God has already shown us.

Small moments of disobedience do not stay small. They accumulate. A tone here. A reaction there. A choice to ignore wisdom again. Over time, those moments build patterns, and the relationship begins to deteriorate because we are not maintaining it well, so to speak.

That is why Proverbs 4:23 (KJV) says, “Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.” What we allow in our hearts will eventually show up in how we handle people.

Family, many of us have been asking God to fix relationships that He has already given us the wisdom to handle differently.

So today, we stop looking for new answers, and we start responding to what God has already revealed.

Because knowing better is not the breakthrough. Doing better is.

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